i am consistently blown away by each entry in this series.
every post is full of this transparent honesty that brings my heart joy.
seeing women come together to help banish this idea that “lovely” is defined in one way is blowing my mind. we are all lovely – no matter what trial or joy we are facing.
today you get to know kiki a little better. her blog | in its time | is a source of honesty, love, beautiful images, and God-centered perspective.
i have had the privilege of not only learning more about her through her blog, but growing a beautiful and unique friendship with her. i am so blessed to know her – and i am so blessed to introduce her to you today.
why is it hard for us to embrace vulnerability?
I think it’s hard for us to embrace vulnerability because we all too often like to shove our vulnerabilities in the back of our mind, putting them in a place where dust can cover them up. You know, out of sight, out of mind? Embracing vulnerability means accepting and admitting that we have weaknesses. And in a world that looks down on weakness, being vulnerable is pretty much the last thing on everyone’s to-do lists.
I’ve felt exposed and vulnerable many a time, but one of the times I remember most vividly happened when I was in middle school, waiting for the bus to pick us up. I was standing and chatting outside the school with my friends and a girl from my class came up and started whispering and giggling to a so-called friend standing next to me. She then asked me how old I was. When I told her, she started laughing and whispered to the people around me about a white hair she spotted on my head.
It was completely embarrassing and if it wasn’t for a real friend who was standing with me and comforted me when the other girls left, I wouldn’t have made it home in one piece. To be honest, that experience has left a scar and I’ve since never felt completely comfortable with my hair down since.
what makes you feel lovely?
You know, I actually really love that word. Lovely to me is different from beauty. It’s not associated with magazine models or clear complexions. It’s not associated with a number on a scale or high-end makeup or perfume. To me, lovely is associated with love and happiness, joy and confidence. So what makes me feel lovely? Well, I’d have to say friends, the kids I teach, and all of the other passions I hold dear to my heart. It’s the things that I love that make me feel my loveliest.
what internal struggles, if any, do you face when you accept that you are lovely?
I often feel like telling myself that I’m lovely is a lie or an exaggeration. I’m not beautiful in the world’s standards so it’s always been a struggle for me to believe that I am. Even if people tell me that I am, I’ll say ‘thanks’ but will never really take it to heart. It’s hard to accept that I’m lovely when the world says I’m not. And it’s something that while I wish I could say I’ve overcome, I still haven’t.
It’s a struggle, but it’s blog posts like these that help me work through them.
share your thoughts on the “hollywood standard beauty”
The world tells us we’re beautiful when we’re red-carpet ready. When we’re perfected and have covered up our most unique attributes. We’re deemed beautiful when we’ve hidden our vulnerabilities—our ‘imperfections’ or flaws. That’s when the world tells us we’re our loveliest. It’s when we’re not our real selves. That’s when the world thinks we’ve hit perfection. And if you ask me, it hurts to acknowledge and live in a world that believes this lie.
share your thoughts on God’s standard of beauty.
God’s love and eye for beauty, however, is amazing. I sometimes forget that God not only created the most beautiful flowers in the world, the tallest mountains, and the vast oceans, but me, too. So if I believe that God’s creation is beautiful, I need to start believing that I am beautiful, too.
if you could speak to a group of middle & high school girls on the topic of being lovely & beautiful, what would you say?
As a teacher, the last thing I want is to teach my students that they’re not good enough—especially in the teenage years. I want my students and future kids to know that it doesn’t matter if they’ve got a zit the size of Mount Everest on their chin or a scar as long as the Nile River on their arm. It doesn’t matter because those things won’t last forever. Their heart and their soul will be with them as long as they’re alive and that’s what will keep them going.
You’ve got to focus on your inside. Because it’s when you feel and believe that you’re beautiful that you are truly beautiful—inside and out.
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