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Things I said I would “NEVER” do as a mom, yet here I am.

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October 7, 2022October 7, 2022

You want to know what’s funny? Not being a parent and thinking you know what would be best for someone else’s child or how you would do it differently.
I remember hearing stories and telling myself “I won’t be that kind of mom / I would never let my child do that / I can’t believe they XYZ”. I’ll fully admit that sometimes I was 100% outwardly judging and other times I just said it internally while making a mental note to “never” do it that way.
WHEW, was I wrong about so many things.
Whether it’s out of desperation (hello sleep deprivation), inexperience, I’ve tried everything so let me try it that way, or just not so tired of repeating yourself over and over – you find yourself in a space that pre-baby you would never believe.

So here is a small list I’ve found myself mentally compiling of things I said I would never do/I would only do and yet here we are. I hope if you’re a mom you get a laugh out of this, and if you’re a non-mom judgy person like I was hopefully this helps you see to give others a little more grace.


LIES I TOLD MYSELF AS A NON-MOM

  • I’ll never let my baby sleep in the bed with me.
  • I’ll never structure my life around my babies schedule.
  • My child will nap anywhere, I won’t let him not be able to nap only at home (for the record Ford does nap other places but 99.99% of the time it’s at home in his crib).
  • I plan to make my babies purees because it’s “easy and healthy”.
  • I’ll breastfeed.
  • I won’t loose myself in motherhood.
  • I’ll do cloth diapering.
  • My child won’t throw things onto the ground out of his chair/stroller.
  • I would never play pick-up-the-paci in the middle of the night.
  • When someone asks what I do my first response won’t be “I’m a mom”
  • I won’t hold my kid to get him to fall asleep.
  • I’ll still keep in constant contact with my friends.
  • I won’t only talk about my child and diapers and sleep and whatever.
  • My child will sit peacefully in the high chair and not eat off the floor.
  • I won’t buy chicken nuggets and feed my child that because it’s easier.
  • I’ll loose the weight quickly and workout often to stay in good shape.
  • I won’t be that mom who stays home all the time. We will be out and on the go.
  • I would never sit on the floor with my child to get him to eat.
  • The TV will never be on and screen time will be limited.
  • I’ll still do my hair and makeup often and won’t become one of “those moms” who just wears biker shorts and t-shirts and looks like she doesn’t care about herself anymore.
  • Workouts will be a priority because I’ll have the time.
  • I’ll be so productive during nap times, I won’t be one of “those moms” who sits in silence or watches TV.

There are seriously SO many points I could keep adding to that list but I think you get the gist. Motherhood has been a huge spoonful of humble pie. It’s taught me how judgmental, impatient, and selfish I am all while teaching me to embrace grace, be more gentle, and realize that things take time. I do not have it all together and most days look like a little goblin who hobbled out of the garbage can with messy hair, wrinkled clothes, and all the baby weight still clinging to me. I am also incredibly thankful that I have a partner who helps me, who supports me, who thanks me, and encourages me as we are in this thing together.

What are some things you’ll admit to thinking/saying you would “never do / do differently” before you had a kid?

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2 comments on “Things I said I would “NEVER” do as a mom, yet here I am.”

  1. Robyn B says:
    October 27, 2022 at 8:32 pm

    motherhood is seriously something you can’t imagine until you are living it. the mental drain and huge amount of time it takes to get anything done… it doesn’t seem like it would take up so much space and energy but it does!! i’ve been learning these same things!

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    • amurray says:
      October 28, 2022 at 1:08 am

      it really is a constant learning experience and the minute you figure out one thing 10 more change!

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